Adulthood doesn’t mean you stop drinking juice pouches and eating fruit snacks. It means buying your own.
Over the summer, my co-worker sexual assaulted me on much more than few occasions. He was a male and around my same age. And I never told my boss.
However, I did tell those who were around me. I was confused and I needed to let it out. Their responses made me question our society and our view on women and men.
1. My best friend. She knew from the beginning. She knew I was confused and uncomfortable.
Her response: Well, at least this means you’re pretty.
Ugh, this just shows that our society tells us that men are allowed to place their dominance on women. (Because sexual assault and rape are a way males can assert their dominance). I realized that women can play a role in our inferior view in our own society.
I was disgusted and shocked by her response.
2. My father. I told my parents after the sexual assault had mostly stopped and I watered the incidents.
His response: It’s something guys do to see how far they can go. Once you show disinterest, it should stop.
Ugh part 2. Why do we think such actions are acceptance behavior and just a dating ritual?
It was not comforting at all.
3. My boyfriend. He also knew from the beginning. I could tell he was seriously concerned.
Response: I don’t get why you’re not telling your boss. That’s the only thing you can do. You must tell.
The problem here is that I didn’t to tell because I was afraid my boss would think I was lying or exaggerating, would side with my co-worker, or say I was just misinterpreting the situations. Also it was an embarrassing thing to admit to. Why did I think this? My only guess is that women are taught to be quiet and not speak up against others.
After these responses, I lost hope in our society. We, especially myself, can be negatively shaped by our socialization. I hope that through progress, we can eliminate these thoughts.